Have you ever watched a child learn to walk? They let go of something and wobble in one spot for a minute, then fall on their bottom. Then they get back up and let go of something and wobble there for another minute then fall on their bottom again. Then they get back up and let go of something and seem to be a bit steadier then maybe put one foot in front of the other – maybe they fall again, maybe they steady themselves out? Then eventually they do the frankenstein walk with their arms stretched out for balance, and proud was an understatement?
At one point, would that child’s parent ever say “Oh, nevermind, I’ll do it for you, you’re taking too long to learn to walk” and pick that child up and take him or her to whatever toy they were headed to?
No. Thats right, they would not. They would encourage that child to get up and try it again. They would cheer when that child took a couple of steps and dance around and yell when that child finally accomplished taking a few steps on their own, making that child feel like a hero – making that child feel accomplished and on top of their own little world.
What happened to letting our kids fall? You’ve heard the saying “the only real mistakes are the ones from which we learn nothing,” right? Falling, experiencing blunders, tripping over stepping stones are truly the only way we really learn. Taking away those opportunities from our children is robbing them of a learning opportunity!
I am experiencing this phenomenon with the kids at school, with kids in my life in general, where they are not okay with making mistakes because they are never given the chance to figure out how to fix them. They are already afraid to fail which means essentially they are afraid to learn. They don’t know how to get back up if they fall down – every single thing is just being done for them, and it is so aggravating!
In this age of instant gratification and go-go-go and doing things for ourselves we are forgetting that if we don’t let our kids try they are not going to be able to do. Celebrate each and every accomplishment just like learning to walk – we need to make our kids feel more like heroes every day!